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  • The Finder of Lost Things

    My kid asked me the other day what my super powers were. I said always being one step ahead.

    She didn’t find that funny.

    – I can fly and climb walls, – was her answer.

    Valid, I will give her that, though over-done.

    I have spent a day or two, on and off, thinking about this question, and I think what I want to do is find all the things that have been lost. What a power that would be!

    I could find the Ark of the Covenant, and all those car keys!

    I could discover lost languages, and all that lost time!

    Dates that went nowhere and timeshare presentations!

    All that lost money I would find!

    Lost connections, and lost loves!

    And while I’m on this, where are the people with super powers that are just lazy about life. You know, the guy who can create dimension portals, and all they use that for is making it quicker to get a beer from the fridge. Or the person with laser vision that only uses it to heat up food.

    Just an idea.

  • Habits

    I am trying to break my old habits, and see if I can create some new ones.

    The kid is the person who is indirectly influencing me to do this reexamination. I am concerned that I am not engaging enough with my kid to try and avoid screen time. (For most people screen time refers to phones and computers, but here I want to include the tv as well.) Right now, I say that we are doing about two hours a day. I think that is a pretty good number, but something keeps poking at me in the back of my head, so I think that number is too high.

    When I think back to my childhood, the tv was always on, and I turned out fine.

    Right?

    What I remember is watching tv in the morning when I got up, most likely about a half hour. Went to school and was home by 3pm, and that was when Jeopardy was on. But I would say that I was home for about an hour watching tv and snacking before I went outside to play. Parents were home by about 5:30, and they would watch the news, about an hour. Dinner time, and then we would watch about another 3 hours of tv. So, I think I watched about 4.5 hours of tv a day growing up.

    So why do I feel guilty about our two hours for the kid?

  • Too Long

    I have been away far too long from this. The new job happened, and then we all got into the swing of things when it comes to living in California. It has been a learning curve.

    The worst part is that I have completely let myself fall into old and bad habits. There is no working out, and I have noticed that, though NYC was a grind, car culture has made me lazy. I drive everywhere, and I don’t move. At least NYC meant that I had to walk everywhere, and that meant on most days I got my 10,000 steps in.

    It’s as if two different and competing ideas are in my head right now.

    First, there is the part of me that feels like with all these changes, I have lost my stability, and everything feels like it’s on the edge of spinning out of control. (This is not actually true, but it is the feeling that I have, since my life of the past 12 years has changed. And as I co-worker said to me, people don’t deal with change well at all.) I don’t know what my new stability is, or how to create it, so in the end, it feels like nothing is really getting accomplished.

    The other side is that I keep trying to force my new CA life to behave like my NYC life. The best example I can give is that in NYC, once I got home, I never went back out. Such as, I tried to schedule my life around the idea of being out (Leave for work, then rehearsal, then drinks with friends, then dinner, then home and done,) for as long as possible, and when I got home at the end of the day, my day was over. Here, not unlike when I was in TX, I can come and go from event to home, to event to home, but in my head, it’s like once I get home, I can’t leave again… Which is silly, but that was the way I lived for 12 years.

    Anyway, the point here is that I have trying to get out of old habits, make new and healthier ones, and find a way to live a new way, with new possibilities. It’s not as easy as I thought it would be.

  • New Job

    Well, I went and got myself a job which starts on Monday. It has been a challenging, and at some points, difficult three months of job hunting, but the work paid off and I will be gainfully employed.

    I did wonder if the change to my employment status played a part on the latest jobs report.

    But with the new job came a reality, which was that we are staying in California.

    I know that living in California was the plan all along, but everything still felt up in the air until I found a job. Now that I have one, we can let out a sign of relief and also start planning for a future here.

    And the planning was the part I had been holding off on. I didn’t know where I was going to be working, if we needed to get another car, or if we had to move, again, so that our commutes were reasonable.

    Now, its decided.

    Now we have to start thinking about schools and all of those other things. Local elections and festivals, and relaxing weekends in the mountains.

    But for me…

    The thing I get to start planning is a study/art studio. Oh, that creative thing that I couldn’t have in New York, as our apartment was too small. Bookshelves to put my books on, and a desk to create at.

    A little thing, but something that I have been wanting to do for 20 years.

  • Another Billionaire Problem Solver?

    I have nothing personal against Howard Schultz. As far as I know, and I will give him the benefit of the doubt, is that he is a good husband and father and friend to all.

    But he is a businessman billionaire. And going into 2020, that is a huge albatross around his neck. Is he going to try and convince me that a billionaire businessman isn’t qualified to be president, so we should elect another billionaire businessman?

    That’s going to be a tough sell.

    He isn’t making his case any easier by going after Medicare for all. (The only point I will give him is that no one is addressing how to pay for it, and he is right to point that out.) But it is completely a false equivalency to compare national health care to the boarder wall.

    There is national healthcare in the world, it does work. And if he is really worried about the insurance industry going out of business, then he should look at Germany’s system of national and private healthcare.

    The boarder wall plays on some people’s hate and racism. That doesn’t work.

    But here is where he has already fumbled the ball; he is trying to defend health insurance companies over patients, because effectively, that is what he is saying. He isn’t even politically savvy enough to at least say that putting insurance companies out of business would unemployed so many people, and that isn’t fair. (That’s a good old solid Republican line…) If he is trying to run as a centrist, and trying to get middle America to vote for him, then he needs to understand that this part of the electorate is living paycheck to paycheck (government shut down just hammered that home) and their experiences with insurance companies is adversarial. People have an emotional response to insurance companies, and his first steps out of the gate shows that he doesn’t understand that.

    Don’t show up to the emotion fight with logic, because you will lose every time. You fight emotion with emotion, and logic with logic, and the best politicians know when each is called for in the argument.