Month: October 2019

  • The Little Things that Make the Difference

    It is closing in on a year that I have lived in California. Specifically, in the North Bay area. It is pretty here, and the people are nice, but I am still getting used to the differences.

    Air Conditioning: Mainly, not a lot of people have it, and don’t get me wrong, I understand why. It’s only three months out of the year that you might need it, and that would be about half of the days. What makes it weird is that Summer is July, August and September. October started to feel like fall, but even this week, we got hit with a heat wave in the 90’s. As I have been told, this is not normal, need A/C in late October, but as you will see, that phrase has been a theme.

    Rain: It’s pretty much all or nothing around here. We are in late October, and it should be raining, but it’s not. We should average 5 days of rain… We’ve had one. The rain makes everything green, and washes away the dirt and the pollen. But this is not a normal year.

    Power outages/Wildfires: So, the power company cuts off the power when it gets too windy. I understand why. It’s just that I feel like that as a modern society, we should be able to better handle fires, other than a blanket power shut off. As I write this, the Kincade Fire is burning 20 miles north of us, and I can smell the smoke. What makes this weirder is that where the fire started, that area didn’t have power. Shutting off power is new, and not normal.

    Now, I am 30 minutes from the beach, and 20 minutes from a huge Redwood rainforest. That’s pretty cool. I’m just getting used to it all.

  • The Fanboys and Movies

    Fanboys have broken me.

    I was watching the Star Wars Final Trailer, and it was fine, and made me a little excited to see the movie, too. I will be taking my daughter to see it at Christmas time, and for that reason alone, I know I will have a great time with the movie.

    And then the thought of the fanboys came into my head, and the continuous shitting on the movie that will happen the second the movie starts playing. It’s just draining to hear constant nitpicking.

    I am fully aware I can ignore people, but sadly, I am good friends with some fanboys, though they figured out they are fanboys.

    What bothers me is that fanboy culture has changed the way we now think about criticizing movies. I know this is an event movie that lots of stuff will ‘slpode in. But whatever inconstancy or error that some fanboy discovers will then be blown up into the greatest of all transgressions, and thus the movie is shit, and you are shit for liking it.

    The outrage! “How could they do this to us, they most loyal of loyal fans! We deserve better!”

    How did we get here, again?

    Sure, you can blame the internet for creating an arms race of outrage and offense that must be expressed to the highest degree…

    But the other side of it, that some of these movies really are very good, but there is no context for constructive criticism.

    I think this was a part of the point that Scorsese and Coppola were trying to make; Star Wars and Marvel movies right now are just telling the same story repeatedly. With all these two-dimensional characters that are tumbling towards a third act in the movie where everything will explode, and the heroes are protected by plot armor, and in the back of your mind, you know that in six months you are about to do this same thing all over again, just with a different cast and setting.

    This is what the fanboy beast wants to be fed, and the billions of dollars prove that right now, its still a winning formula. And that outrage is also part of that formula now.

  • Still Posting

    It’s getting late in the day, but damn it, I’m posting something.

    This will be one of the worst things I have written and put up on the internet, but I promised myself that I would blog once a day for this whole week.

    And I have too often made a promise to myself, and then when things got tough, or annoying, or something good was on tv, that I just gave up, and gave in to the easy way of things. The easy way out.

    Not today, Satan. Not today.

    I will just put up about 250 words trying to gin up my resolve to get write, something, anything, right now.

    I need to make some time for my journal, and I d have a short story I want to keep working on, but as the hours are drawing to a close, I must make some choices.

    And I choose this blog!

    And the 35 readers that I have for it.

    Yes, you.

    One of the points of doing this blog was to get back to the idea that I was writing for an audience, and that I was free to try different tactics to reach that audience.

    This will go up as one of the new approaches.

    I feel like the guy that crawled across the finish line of a race. Wow, what a terrible showing, but he finished the race. I followed through, and I am trying to make this mean a bit more than it might.

  • Sweaters with Age

    I wanted to write about politics today, but my heart really isn’t into it. I think I am having Trump/Impeachment/Syria fatigue. Just so much bad stuff that I feel like I need a break.

    Which is why I would like to complain about the weather just like a very old and bitter man.

    In the North Bay today, it’s almost 90 degrees. And it’s October 21st. AND I don’t live in Texas. AND have I mentioned that I hate the heat.

    There is something so deep in my core, one of the truths of being that I hold on to, which tells me that when I get to late October, I get to wear sweaters because it’s cool a outside. Not hot.

    There should be no more hot weather.

    Yet, here I am with a full week of 90 degrees, when just two days ago it was 68.

    And this is when I know that I have flipped some sort of aging switch, or crossed some line that has placed me smack dab into middle age: I want to be comfortable all the time, and if I’m not, I’m going to complain about it until I make someone as annoyed as I feel right now.

    This is where I am now; It’s hot and someone listen to me!

    I guess it’s kind’a funny.

    But when me and my friends get together, and we kid about getting older and changing, yes the random aches and pains make moments of shared anguish… But what really is the worst part is that I know feel my stupid entitled complaints are not subjectively personal, but now they objective truths!

    Which they aren’t.

    I just want to wear a sweater, and really, in the big picture of the universe, no one cares.

    In five days I’ll be back to normal.

  • How Quickly I Got Off My Game

    I think I was making real progress when it comes to writing, over the past month. And then this week hit, and I just ground to a halt. I am aware that the anniversary of my mother’s passing on Monday has been weighing on my mind, and I know that’s normal, and it should happen. I guess what I hoped I would do would be to channel those feelings into something creative.

    Part of this process, the grieving process, is learning to forgive, and accept yourself. Grieving is individual and creates feeling of anger and guilt. I am trying to just let myself feel what this is like. Not force it into something that seems to be the reaction I should have. Somedays, I honestly feel like I should be having a deeper reaction to her passing, and other, I feel smothered in a blanket of sadness and loss.

    I guess I thought I was ready to start using these emotions in my creative process, but I think I’m not there yet. I did say to myself that I wanted a year to go by before I put anything on paper, or attempted to share this publicly. Maybe this is what the start of this process feels like?