I have never really fit into a traditional role. I have viewed marriage as a partnership, as well as child rearing. I have no issue with my wife earning more money than me. I do not feel bound by any convention of what I should be, and I love that my wife is ambitious and successful.
And we have been thinking of ways to get the family budget down, and what would be best for the kid. And we have been kicking around the idea that I could be a stay at home dad until the kid gets to school age. It is an idea that I welcome.
I have no illusion that this would be a great commitment, and not easy in any way. It will be work. There will be little free time, and I will continue to have to find the time to follow my creative projects.
What I would gain out of it is getting to have that time with the kid. I already have the melancholy/bittersweet sinking feeling in my stomach watching her get bigger and form her own personality. I feel it all going by so quickly, and I really don’t want to miss any of it. But… but… I know that this is a losing battle. She will grow up, and I have to learn to step aside.
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